Trying to get your imposter syndrome to go away?

 

Hey, love.

Maybe you have tried to get your imposter syndrome to GO AWAY by convincing your brain you DO have authority, you are extremely skilled, and ABSOLUTELY brilliant.

This sometimes works and can be powerful medicine.

You likely know that negativity bias and our inner critic can be strong, so writing out 10 reasons why you are doing brilliant work can be SUPER helpful.

However, these kind of processes can feel like you are gaslighting yourself.


In more extreme cases, maybe you’re worried about it turning into toxic positivity, because you’ve seen it among other coaches. Yes, sometimes mindset work can turn into avoidance and a lack of taking responsibility.

"I couldn’t possibly mess up. I'm doing a fabulous job as a leader, anything that counters this is my brain just being anxious"

This can be a dangerous protection mechanism and a vicious cycle.

For when shame and fear keep us from looking at our mistakes as leaders, our subconscious is still noticing them.

The imposter syndrome can sneak back in...and the self positive talk will need to come in even stronger.

Dangerously, this can result in us not taking any ownership for our impact!

So if this is something that concerns you right now, here’s your reminder and reframe…

What if your imposter syndrome was a symptom of your care? That you care about your responsibility and your impact?

Imposter syndrome can also be a sign that you maybe stepped out of role clarity.

It's important to keep asking, what is your role? What isn't your role?

Tune into them somatically:

  • What does it feel like to be in the role of a friend?

  • In the role of a practitioner?

  • A teacher?

  • A lover?

Here is a tangible example of personal role clarity: even though I know a lot about healing, I stay in the realm of somatics and don't prescribe medicine to be ingested. It can be wildly helpful to remind your body what’s your role and what’s not your role and have rituals around when you step into and out of a practitioner role.

And what if it was okay to accidentally step out of your role?

What if you got to be in an ever evolving process of discovering and discerning your role and embodying role clarity?

Imposter Syndrome can also be a symptom of telling yourself you can't be messy and must be perfect as a leader.

Imposter syndrome can sometimes act as a narrow box of shame and perfectionism.

A box that is hypervigilantly scanning for you to make a mistake, to exclaim "aaHA! I knew you weren't ready for this! I knew you didn't belong here and couldn't handle this."

So what if you broke the cycle by holding nuance?

  • The nuance that it's okay to make mistakes as a leader!

  • The nuance of feeling like an imposter may be a sign you care!

  • The nuance of noticing when you step out of role and feel the edges of deepening your role and role clarity!

Remind your body that you are allowed to be messy and your willingness, acknowledgement and growth from your messiness will help you become a better leader.

Interested in working in your business with this kind of somatic awareness?

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